Hi, I'm Keri. My approach to helping you is simultaneously efficient, systematic, provocative, confronting, nurturing, and safe.
Ideally, it addresses YOU fully as the perfectly imperfect human being that you are. We will first identify what it is that you wish to change, work through, let go of, feel your truest feelings around, or accomplish.
Then we will excavate anything and everything which is in the way of doing exactly those things. The messier and more complicated the better! From there we will look very closely at those things and greatly reduce or eradicate the fear, judgment, shame, blame, resistance, and so forth. For example, you want to leave an unhealthy relationship but are scared to do so: I will help you confront, embrace, and no longer reject the parts of yourself which are in the way of bravely facing your deepest fears of being alone and facing the world as a single person perhaps for the first time in a long time. Another example is that you would like to show up differently in your relationships, finally attracting a mutual, supportive, emotionally responsible, and deeply loving partner. I will help you own and lessen any negative patterns of self-worth which hinder you from finding your perfect match.
Whether it is setting out to date, dealing with stepchildren and blending a family, navigating what feels like endless conflict, commitment fears, attachment wounds, feeling continually triggered by your partner, healing from infidelity, or dealing with compulsive and destructive patterns, I am guessing you have parts of yourself that you are not at peace with and you keep trying to hide, avoid, judge, and shame them when they reveal themselves or blame and make others wrong when they arise. Maybe you are in the codependent realm of constantly working your butt off trying to fix, change, or have your partner reach their potential. Maybe you sacrifice your true needs for minute bursts of validation hoping eventually it will lead you to love and fulfillment and betray your boundaries. Maybe you feel incredibly anxious, insecure, and needy in relationships.
Or maybe you avoid conflict at all costs and resort to passive aggressive behavior.
This is not a problem and I will help you own these parts of yourself gracefully rather than blame and shame yourself and others for having them. How about anger? Even rage? Addictive tendencies? Do you engage in compulsive behavior with porn, food, and spending money, in exchange for temporary numbness or a hit of dopamine? Have you had affairs or cheated on your partner? Have you been cheated on and cannot move on? We will lessen the emotional charge around anything which is blocking your ability to move forward. None of these emotions or scenarios are problematic on their own, but my assumption is that they cause you to behave in a way that can result in pain for yourself and others.
Maybe you cannot get over a break-up or get past a betrayal. We will work through this until you feel more at peace. Want a different career or more money? Let's make it happen!
Anything you are feeling right now in this moment is fully acceptable and worthy of further investigation and illumination. I do not care how ugly, messy, or dark it is. In order to create what we want, we have to shed light on the obstacles in the way of fully receiving it.
We do this by naming it, neutralizing the negative emotional connotation we have around it, and normalizing it as a part of ourselves worthy of embracing and accepting. From there we can behave in a new way which is in alignment with the understanding of all of these parts of ourselves.
Let's create a path forward!
From a very early age I developed a propensity toward trying to understand and heal the many facets of human suffering. My reality at home proved to be a perfect breeding ground for this lifelong quest. A day in the life often included pressing my ear against the floor vent absorbing the latest reverberation of my parent's rendition of a verbal war. Interwoven within that war was material displayed among a perfectly depicted backdrop of addiction, codependence, mental illness, and unhealed childhood attachment wounds. Often carrying these familial burdens and dark shadows of pain on my young shoulders, I chose to explore human suffering through the lens of relationships and relationship transitions. It is my opinion, that these themes provide the perfect path toward growth and healing.
I have studied at The Relationship School with Jayson Gaddis, Bard College, and Naropa University. I have a background in psychology as well as extensive training in relationship and life coaching. The culmination of my varied degrees and certifications has brought me to the destination of being a Certified Relationship Coach.